Every time I’ve interviewed for a new role or met members of a new team, I’ve fielded the question “How would you describe your leadership style?” My answer – not surprisingly – has evolved over the decades. I’ve heard several different answers from others too, candidates I have interviewed, leaders I have worked with.
“Leadership is not something you do to people, it is something you do with people.” – Ken Blanchard
Aside from a core theme, my answer to this question really is “it depends”. Hmmm, that doesn’t sound very specific or confident, but it is the truth. What I have learned is that it does not suffice to choose one style and stick to it. If you have a coaching style of leadership then those who need something different are experiencing a disservice. What about those who need a directive style of leadership, or something entirely different?
I have learned that our environment and the people around us are dynamic, unique, and simply quite different. Therefore, one preferred style of leadership just won’t do. It is incumbent on the leader to read the situation and the person, to ask questions, and to listen without distraction before they choose the leadership approach that will best serve the situation and the people involved. This means a leader may need to be supportive, directive, collaborative, assertive, communicative, and compassionate all in a span of one day depending on who they are serving and what the circumstances are. Leaders must be flexible, even when a particular leadership style is not their strength because as I’ve shared before, it’s not about you.
No, this does not mean that I am a laissez-faire leader, quite the contrary actually. While I am flexible in my leadership style, my goal is clear; to great a sense of belonging and inspire others to be their best. What is your goal as a leader? Does your style, or approach to leadership foster your goal? Does your goal resonate with people on your team? If you haven’t reflected in a while, perhaps this is a great moment to pause and reflect about your leadership goals, intentions, and perceptions.
– Melissa
